It is important to gather as much factual information about your family as possible, (knowing that pertinent information will emerge during the constellation).
Did any member of your family:
- have a child who died young (before 2 years)
- lose a parent early, before the child was 28 or 30 years old
- die as a result of childbirth or whose life was in danger during childbirth?
- have a difficult birth (C-section, prolonged labor?)
- have a stillborn child
- have a miscarriage or an abortion
- have an illegitimate or extramarital child
- experience an early separation from their mother (due to hospitalization, etc.)
- have children who were abandoned, passed on to foster parents or relatives at an early age
- attend a boarding school at an early age
- have children who were given up for adoption
- have a major accident, injury or serious illness
- suffer loss due to natural or other disasters
- suffer physical disabilities or mental deficiencies
- suffer from mental illness
- become imprisoned (jail, prison, reservation, internment or concentration camp, prisoner of war, etc.)
- serve in the military
- suffer exclusion from the family
- become a nun, monk or priest
- suffer bankruptcy
- emigrate from another country
- become involved in slavery (as slaves, masters, slave traders)
- have colonial rulers
- have native ancestors
- become a missing person
- never marry
- never had children
- become a homosexual, lesbian, transgender or have gender identity issues
- encounter prejudice: meaning disrespected, slandered, treated with contempt or as an outcast – due to disability, alcohol or drug use, homelessness or criminal activity
- lose their fortune
- complain of being taken advantage of (i.e., an unequal inheritance)
- experience a family feud
- were victims of violence or murder by a member of the family or others outside the family
- gain from the misfortune or death of another
- experience a traumatic life-threatening event/accident at any age
- attempt or commit suicide
- commit a crime, including a war crime
- survive or die in the Holocaust or other genocide
- have to flee their home/homeland
- have parents of different nationalities
- were not allowed to leave the parental home